Right now my niece is over playing with Isabelle. Since she's been here I've actually been able to get a lot done!
Usually 2 weeks don't pass without me being asked, "So when are you going to have more kids?" It doesn't bother me at all. It's just a question. My usual answer is "eventually". We are waiting for Moses to finish school first, or at least be pretty close to done, so by the time baby would arrive, he's not in school and working. This of course is the "plan", but plans are just that...plans.
I guess it may seem "ideal" to have another child sooner than later, but I am having a hard time believing that the age of the first child should be the primary determining factor when considering the timing of another child. I believe other factors should be looked at, such as the financial stability of the family, the health of the mother, the temperament of the child and how the family dynamics are, and the stability of the marriage. If one of these are overlooked, and are unstable, then having the "correct space" between the children for the ideal family seems a bit off to me.
So, more then likely our children will be farther apart than "the average". That's if things go as we plan, they will probably be at least 5 years apart. There are pros and cons to this, just like there are pros and cons to popping out babies one after another. We just gotta weigh them out to the best of our ability factoring our current situation with what we believe we want in the long run, yet being completely aware that the future can throw anything our way.
If we only have one child, than I'm okay with that too. Actually, I feel so blessed right now to be able to enjoy having only one child, and I think that's a mutual feeling with Isabelle and Moses too. I am only one person. I'm fully aware of my limitations and unique wiring, therefore I feel very content only having one child at this time. I'm able to focus much more keenly on my child's needs and respond to them without feeling pulled in so many different directions. Don't get me wrong, I completely respect those I know who have more than one young child right now, and more power to them! But as for me...I know this is right for me and my family at this time.
We, as all different types of people, are each in different places in our lives, with different backgrounds and unique makeup regarding so many different aspects of life. It's ridiculous to compare ourselves to others, like comparing apples to oranges. Besides, we only know such a limited amount of the bleak pictures we see into others' lives...unless we get the very rare opportunity and invitation to be intimately involved with the inner-workings of peoples' lives, you only see the tip of the iceberg.
I guess you could say that the more I feel I'm 'growing up', the more I understand that people are so uniquely created and therefore experience life very differently...and that is an okay thing. No, that is a beautiful thing. When we have the freedom to be as we are and see others as they are, and honor the differences instead of compare, judge, and bull shit ourselves into thinking that we are better than others, when the truth is we are actually just different than others...when we get this...we can start to grow up a little! I'm just starting...not perfect in this...but do feel like I've been doing some growing up in the past few years...it's fun, I highly recommend it! Ahhhhaaa~unless you are already done that is...:)
