Okay, so I had a good talk with my husband regarding this stuff last night. We agreed that this issue is not cut and dry. We agreed that we both should be consistent in our expectations of how our child should conduct herself, and with disciplining...the parent needs to take into an account several things such as; their own temperment in how to respond in that moment, the child's temperment, the environment and of course any phsical health issues, to name a few.
The expectations and standards should remain consistent, but in the exact way it's dealt with (the method or the consequence that follows disobedience) doesn't necessarily need to follow some sort of formula...it depends on the previously mentioned variables.
So, in short...we don't necessarily think that all spanking is evil or counterproductive, if it is done in the spirit of love and self-control from the parent...and NOT in any way shape or form done in a spirit of anger and retribution. This should also be accompanied by 'a talk' and teaching the child the cause and effect of good choices and bad choices. This is all much easier said than done...
that's all for now on this...
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