Let me please introduce myself to you...My name is Denial.
Usually I don't do this sort of thing...make honest confessions. I am true to my name...but, then again my name is Denial, so being true to my name means I can deny its true meaning whenever convenient.
I like to pretend that I am your friend, that you need me to feel good about yourself. I love it when I'm embraced so that my Embracer feels as if they are a quasi-god, -they do not need to change because they are above reproach.
This is how I like to operate...
After any type of painful or negative experience, I, Denial, will woo, pursue and sweep people off their feet so they rarely, if ever, need to ask themselves questions, or more than that..answer these questions that could teach them self-empowering lessons. If they are self-empowered, they won't embrace me. These lessons could teach them that they willingly played a role that resulted in their painful experience, hence they could willingly play a different role and maybe be a part of the solution, rather than perpetuating the problem by clinging to me. No, I will come and save the day, I will rescue them from being victimized to that sort of thinking.
No, that is not the message I,Denial, want to give to.
This is the message I want others to believe with all their hearts and minds about me, Denial:
My address is on the Island of Paradise, on Easy Street, for when you reside with me there you'll see why I've chosen that as my homeland. You will never have to face anything unpleasant. And if you do, it's never your fault! Never! I will cater to you with illusions of selective forgetfulness and numbness. You can stare deeply into my eyes and feel as though that prickly thing called reality and self-examination dissipates when you lock your eyes with mine. You can believe whatever you fancy, and I will support you, as long as you trust me, Denial, 100% and never question me. I will be your caretaker, so that you'll never have to fall victim to taking care of yourself.
Questions, those icky things are what you'll never have to ask yourself or answer honestly...because asking questions will lead you astray from me, Denial. Searching and questioning are dangerous. Looking for answers which could lead to change within yourself is a huge no-no. The moment you'll start doing that, I'll start to depart from you. I cannot handle questions. I can only handle your complete blind trust in me, without questions. Close your eyes and turn your head away from questions. If you want to walk with me, you'll need to just trust me. When others try to dissuade you from submitting to me, Denial, it's because they do not understand, and want to buck the system of their norms. They are dangerous people who are to be avoided at all costs.
Denial is my name and denial is my game
Walk with me, and everything you hate fundamentally stays the same
But that's not my fault after all
You're the one who made the call
I am your greatest asset to remaining stuck
Cuz lack of self-awareness, makes you, the devil's sitting duck
Hate me, love me, I don't care
I got no heart, no soul to bare
Where we'll eventually end, is exactly where your troubles began
Because facing reality and change are what you won't ever need to withstand
Denial is my name and denial is my game
It gets you nowhere, but I ain't to blame
I'm staying true to my name, which results in your shame
But I sure won't admit that I, Denial, am to blame
-by kristen lopez.
Thank you for putting up with sarcasm to make a dramatic point...
Informal Disclaimer: This is NOT meant for people who blame themselves for their abuse or exploitation they received in which they were powerless to prevent or stop, like children for example. This is primarily for the adult who refuses to take ownership of their choices and instead..blames and hides behind denial.
We all fall short...own up and grow up.
